“My heart bleeds for you.” “God only gives you what you can handle.”

I recently had cause to defend my son from stupidity again.  Some unthinking boob wanted to let me know her heart bleeds for me because my son has autism.  I likely would have felt very differently it she had not been on ThAutCast which tries to help people appreciate neuro-divesity.  I likely would have not eviscerated her but would have suggested that she remember that many people with autism can read….and have feelings and that if your heart bleeds for me that somehow I got a bad bill of sales on my kid.  However, she was not interested in my post about not shoving GFCF down everyone’s throat like the cure it is not.  Yes, it likely helps 15% (random number I just made up) of people with autism; they have ZERO peer reviewed data to prove it has worth so I can make up numbers just like they do…think about the data before doing things to your kid.  But people with Celiac’s do not look like they have autism!  My cousin had it for 20 years and nobody thought she had autism.  I digress soooo she wanted to sell her services as a “nutrition coach” NOT chime into my post but to gain business BEST she does not have a child or family member with autism.  Nope, those are not requirements to read my blog but you should if posting about autism on an autism site have more than just the desire to sell your services.  Below was my attempt to educate her.  I had help from Leo, Melody and June but did not ask to use their words so I did not include them though I did appreciate a man with autism and 2 moms with kids on the spectrum chiming in to say we don’t want pity and that is not cool to perceive our children as something your heart should bleed over.

Below is my attempt to open the eyes of Lori as well as parents who want pity, family members who think pity is an appropriate response to a human life and pretty much the world at large who might be ignorant of what a blessing ALL KIDS ARE regardless of diagnosis.  If you want to pity someone I have a list of parents with kids on the autism spectrum that SUCK….pity their kids and teachers because work could be done to help those kids in their homes by their parents.  I know a man who loves to tell people his son with never say,”Daddy” but this man has ignored his kid for 13 years so pity for that child would be nice.

How DARE YOU FEEL HEART BROKEN FOR ME! MY SON IS A BLESSING! He also has NO GI ISSUES so your DIET and YOUR PROSELYTIZING TO GAIN BUSINESS ON MY POST IS INFURIATING! YOU POSTED SO YOU COULD LET PEOPLE KNOW WHAT YOU DO FOR A LIVING WITHOUT RESPECT FOR MY POST OR MY SON! You remind me of Autism Speaks (OR SHUTS UP) in the Pity Me FACTOR!

My friends with autism would be HORRIFIED that you bleed for their parents! DO YOU NOT UNDERSTAND AT ALL! People with autism are just people. If you want to pity someone how about those who don’t climb Everest each day WITHOUT THE DAMN DIET like my son! SHAME ON YOU! Clearly this site has not taught you to respect people with autism! but it has given you an audience for what your selling!

Shannon McGrail My son deserves respect and I HATE PITY. He is so much better than that as are all of our kids/friends/family with autism.
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2 Responses to “My heart bleeds for you.” “God only gives you what you can handle.”

  1. June Sockol says:

    I love to share stories about my son on my Facebook because I want people to see my child, not the autism. It drives me crazy when others take advantage to sell their products. But it’s even worse when they say they pity us or our child. Every parent has struggles with their children, whether they have a disability or not. I know parents that are trying to get their child off drugs or are dealing with a childhood cancer. Nobody wants pity. I would rather they show understanding and not judge us or our children.

    Good for you for standing up for your child (and really for all of us). It’s a shame we have to do at all. Hopefully she got the point and will think before posting!

  2. robey manno says:

    Shannon–I wish you would tell us how you really feel!!! You go, girl!

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