Hello PVBIA Momma Readers,
This Wednesday night my favorite speaker is coming to NoVA Tom Caffrey! He is totally worth paying to see and has huge take away information that you will want to implement the second you see your child. I attribute much of Bird’s success to seeing Caffrey’s Managing Problem Behaviors class 4 yes 4 times and it’s a 2 day class! More information on this class can be found here http://www.poac-nova.org/base.cgim?template=workshop_caffrey_2012
I remember the first time I went to see him and realized I had been snowed by my then 4 or 5 year old son with autism! I had been tricked bagged into believing that Bird could not do comply with certain things and that I would need to make allowance for him because he was on the spectrum.
Caffrey taught me to be consistent. If you give in after the 15 request for something you did not want them to have the next time I request (or tantrum) will be longer. I have found this to be true with my now almost teenage typical kids. You can’t say No and then go back to yes or they won’t believe you the next time you say No.
Data has value was another lesson. 6 or 7 years ago when I used to run a small summer school in my basement to get Bird ready for Kindergarten and then first grade I started taking data for the first time (his therapist was doing this far earlier). I watched Bird in a group setting with 2 teachers (both his therapists) doing everything he could to gain attention during “class time” and realized through data that being chastised had more value than getting no attention at all. More on those summers is here https://pvbiamomma.wordpress.com/2010/05/28/autism-summer-school-in-my-basement/
Long and short of it is that Caffrey himself has a daughter with autism and is a BCBA (Board Certified Behavior Analyst). His information is easy to understand and useful TODAY, this very moment and for the rest of your lives.
I am excited I get to go for a 5th time this week. His class Wednesday is new for our families and on Motivating Children the Unmotivated Child and Thursday and Friday are Managing Problem Behaviors. I wonder what I will pick up this time!
Cheers and Best Wishes,